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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope
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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp I
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am the champion of Hope before we dive
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too deep into this episode I want to
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start out by just uh thanking you for
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tuning in and checking the stuff out
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pretty simple um I know that you
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probably gotten value on it I've been
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doing it for a while now um and feel
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like I'm getting maybe a little better
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at this whole thing uh so if you've
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stuck around this whole time I
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appreciate it but also uh want to ask
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you a request of you if you could just
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do me like a solid and let people know I
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know there's probably a handful of
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people that you know that could benefit
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from this type of message maybe you know
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somebody that's been diagnosed with
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something maybe you know somebody that
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is struggling with some sort of
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transition in life and figuring stuff
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out whatever it might be um these
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messages hopefully will find them a spot
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to begin and that's really ultimately
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what we're doing um we're trying to
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provide a place for you to begin a spark
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um a starting point and then you're
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going to go down that path and
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ultimately something will happen as it
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always does and you might lose that path
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and you might want to figure out a way
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back and that's where hope comes back in
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again um we are not gurus um I'll will
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never claim to be a guru what I'm doing
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is I'm sharing my story with you in
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hopes that you see something in my story
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that you can relate to yourself and that
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is what I'm hoping to provide with this
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whole thing so I'm going to bet that
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there's something in you that is always
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wanting to strive for more I think as
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humans it's natural for us to just want
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to do more stuff or maybe to accomplish
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more stuff um it could be something as
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small as you know collecting things or
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it could be something as big as like you
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know a financial goal or or whatever it
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might be I just really want to Center
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this around the idea of striving for
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more you might be at a place right now
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where you feel like you could be super
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successful and everything is going great
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financially all these things like this
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but you question whether that is where
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you really want to be and you want to
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strive for more you want to have some
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growth in there or you could be the flip
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side you could be somebody that is just
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starting and you're trying to grow but
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you can't figure out where to begin
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because it the world is so wide and vast
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that you can't figure out that first
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starting point and this is where a lot
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of difficulties lie because what we
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start to do is we start to narrate our
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story through other people's lenses
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we'll start to dig out for different
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things and look for different answers
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and all this stuff like that and a lot
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of times what we don't realize is some
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sometimes when we search especially
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online a lot of those things turn out to
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be paid advertisements that are paid to
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find people looking like us to pull and
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extract something from us these these
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quote unquote online gurus that have the
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solution to all the stuff that you're
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going for and we start to adopt that and
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we'll start to run with this story I
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know I did for sure a many times where I
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thought that somebody that was out there
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that clearly I I labeled successful um I
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thought they had the answers to
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everything I was doing and that just
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wasn't true what it actually end up
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being and it took me a long time to
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figure that out uh it wasn't like all of
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a sudden I you know woke up after doing
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it for a month and realized that I was I
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was doing I just went to a different
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quote unquote Guru to the next think it
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somehow they had something that would
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unlock the mystery of who I was and you
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know I think the problem is is that we
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deal with self-worth issues when we
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start to grow when we want to strive for
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more a lot of times that worth whatever
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it might be it's kind of selfworth we
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kind of look at ourselves at the
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limiting parts right we look at yeah but
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we we talk about I mean we'll we'll be
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brave enough to maybe share a story with
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somebody but then we always follow it up
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with yeah but that's too or I'm not that
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or yeah but I would love to do that but
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it costs this or yeah I'd like to do
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that but I know nothing about it's the
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yuts I mean I think that's one of the
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things that we kind of get caught up
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when we start to challenge ourselves to
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grow um because it's really hard to
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think past your nose so to speak and
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then it's learning how to adopt and
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embrace this awkward phase um think back
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to seventh and eth grade we were all
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awkward as can be um you know I had that
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crazy like spike thing down the side of
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my head with like it was like a cross
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between Flock of Seagulls and trying to
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be cool um wearing a cardigan and and
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you know MC Hammer pants uh Google it if
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you don't know what that is um but it
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was not a good look but it was the
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awkward phase and you you're gonna have
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that same thing in your growth it's
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gonna look weird and feel weird and seem
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that you're doing it wrong and there's
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going to be people around you that tell
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you you're doing it wrong and you're
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going to buy into that and then you're
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going to be pissed at yourself because
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you bought into somebody telling you did
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it wrong and you're going to uproot
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you're GNA do all these things because
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it feels so awkward and you want to
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figure out a way to not make it so
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awkward for you so what you have to do
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is just learn how to get over that
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initial discomfort of your growth and
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understand that that is is what growth
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feels like it is that awkward phase you
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grow through the awkward stuff and what
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happens is that awkward stuff actually
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starts to feel normal um then you got to
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start realizing that you actually
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deserve success I think that's a big one
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that we all we all can like learn to
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adopt because I think in a lot of ways
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what we're kind of programmed through
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social media is it's all about getting
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mine and there's a limitedly app of
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whatever it is but this is isn't true um
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the success you're looking for exists
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for you just as much as it does for
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somebody else there is plenty out there
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for everybody but what we have to do was
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we have to start adopting the fact that
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you are deserving of it too and that
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could be completely scary and brand new
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to a lot of us because maybe we've spent
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our whole lives telling us all the
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reasons why we don't deserve success or
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maybe other people have said stuff that
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makes you feel like that what you're
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doing isn't worthy and they're putting a
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St on it or they're putting a projection
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on you all based off of maybe their own
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insecurities and maybe their jealousies
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of you them seeing a success that you
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can't quite see yet because you have an
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idea that you know if you do it right or
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they know if you do it right will take
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off and then now they're going to feel
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like um somehow they are shortcomings
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and so what they'll do is they'll pass a
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judgment on you and that's not yours to
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carry that's on them um but you know
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understanding that you deserve success
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and then finally the big part is
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understanding as you start to evolve and
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you start to
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grow with that comes a new
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normal what is awkward right now because
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you're starting and you're growing will
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now become your new normal everything
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that you know starts out sounds really
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hard to do and then all of a sudden one
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day you're doing it and you're not
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thinking about it anymore think about
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back when and maybe you started riding a
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bike at first it felt awkward and your
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your the handlebars wiggled and you
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pedal as hard as you could but you
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couldn't get it straight and then you
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know within a couple months you're just
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dropping on the bike and like you're
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doing tricks and you're taking over
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jumps and all that stuff like that
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because it just became a new normal your
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life is just like that too you know the
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awkward phase that you're going through
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and you're learning you will actually
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master that and then you're going to
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find a new awkward spot to start and
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each evolution of that becomes a new new
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version of normal to you you define what
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is normal not everybody else everybody
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else wants to put a label in things they
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don't understand that is not your
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problem if somebody doesn't get what
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you're doing as you're
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normal that's not an issue that you need
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to worry about Define what normal is for
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you and understand that you should start
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embracing when things change um because
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a lot of times if you're striving to
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grow it's because there's something
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inside you that you're wanting to bring
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to life and that is going to feel
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awkward but it will feel normal
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eventually and a lot of times I think
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what we experience and a lot of times
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when I've talked to other people is that
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it's so hard to Fathom this idea that
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you can have an idea in your head and
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within a few months it could be in your
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hands in a real thing because it seems
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so odd and hard to do in that present
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moment but when we start to allow growth
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to happen believing that we deserve
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success and we have plenty of
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opportunities to create a new reality
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that feels really normal to us and then
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what will happen is you'll start to find
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your people people will naturally be
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drawn to that that others will say is
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weird but you'll find commonality
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between these people and in that you
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start to find your new normal and that
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new normal will lead to belief in
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yourself and that belief in yourself
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will lead to you ultimately finding all
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the stuff that you've been looking for
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but it's usually hidden behind all the
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stuff that we're afraid to try and I
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just want to encourage you guys all to
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explore those things a little more uh be
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open to growth and being awkward and
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stumbling and don't beat yourself up so
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much because it's it's completely normal
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um you know I know for me when I started
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with this whole brain cancer Journey it
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was awkward and when I would tell people
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it was always met with I'm sorry you
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know and I understood why somebody would
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say they're sorry but it would send me
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on a spin because
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I what I read into that was my own
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projection of like well they think I
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won't make it so then I started you know
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obviously questioning my worth and all
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that good stuff like that we just talked
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about but then once what started
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happening was my new normal became well
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I just I share it and I don't really
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think about what other people are saying
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about it because I know that it's
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different for me it took me a long time
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to tell myself over and over again that
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I'm here I'm clear I'm cured I am whole
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right it was me reprogramming myself to
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realize that I can make these things my
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reality and make them my new normal but
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it was really awkward going through it
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because I fought with all of the reasons
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why everybody else you know threw on my
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way I fought through all those reasons
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why until I finally realized and
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accepted the fact that like maybe what
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everybody else is quoting is normal
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isn't mine maybe my normal is this and
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with that came so much strength that was
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a huge Evolution and a moment that
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really changed everything and I equate
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that back to Hope um I woke up knowing
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my path without a clue of how to get
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there but I was brave enough to take the
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first step steps and I fell a lot but in
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each of those steps I figured out a way
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to get back on that path and slowly what
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started happening was the detours off
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the path got shorter and shorter and
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shorter until I started feeling
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confident enough in myself that I kind
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of had some stuff figured out that I
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started sharing with people and then I
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started accepting that I do deserve
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success in this stuff and with that
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comes the responsibility at least for me
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and this is my normal to take take all
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those things and share it I think that
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it would be a huge disservice to survive
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things that I've been through the
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diagnosis that I was given and not share
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this stuff so this is where this value
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comes from for me this is my normal is I
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want to share hope I want to help people
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see that there's unlimited potential in
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you all that good stuff like that and
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start to give you the tools for it um
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and yeah guys so if you are somebody
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that is striving for more in
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life embrace the awkward face it is so
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normal um you're going to trip and fall
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and look Goofy and ask dumb questions
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and question yourself and doubt yourself
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and not like yourself and tell yourself
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you're stupid you're going to go through
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all those
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things that does not make you abnormal
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that makes you normal if you think about
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it anything in world in the world worth
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getting
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towards it's going to take time and it's
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going to take a lesson and most of the
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time if any everything that you wanted
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just magically happened in front of you
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you probably wouldn't appreciate anyway
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you probably wouldn't like it and you
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probably wouldn't look at it as a way to
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actually build something on but uh if
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you do start to strive for more and
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understand that you do deserve more
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you're going to find that more keeps
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showing up and leaning into those things
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you'll find um hope and love and all
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those amazing things were there all
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along
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and uh yeah that's it strive for more go
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out there and Achieve stuff take a
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chance on yourself like today right now
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just make the decision that you're going
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to put whatever in the heck it is you're
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doing right now on hold for five minutes
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to get out a piece of paper and write
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down one thing that you're going to do
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for yourself uh today not tomorrow not
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next week because that stuff doesn't
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exist nobody's promised you that those
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days will be here like one thing that
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you're going to do today doesn't have to
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be huge and you might look awkward you
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might look silly but you deserve to take
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a chance in yourself today and when you
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do that you're going to find out that
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you are pretty normal so guys as you go
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through life it's going to hand you all
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kinds of different things you may not be
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ready for it or you may be and you
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didn't realize you were but through that
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process what I would really love for you
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to figure out is that what it is that
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you're looking for is truly hidden in
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all the things you're afraid to explore
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and yeah so close this up I just hope
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this helps share this message with other
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people I know you know some people that
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need this stuff um and just help us
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spread the word and as you do that it
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might sound awkward to be like yo
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there's this dude that whatever trust me
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I still feel awkward sometimes talking
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here I'm awkwardly thinking right now
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that I'm running on uh on this thing
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because I'm trying to figure out in my
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brain how to wrap this thing up because
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uh I feel like I went on a tangent my
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mind mind went One Direction now I'm
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trying to steer it back in to figure out
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how to wrap this up in a boat if that's
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not real in sharing a vulnerable point
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of growth as I'm striving for more I
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don't know what it is anyway hope this
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helps power
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