Embracing Vulnerability: The Power of Asking for Help : Beyond Hope Project with Jason Tharp

In this episode of the Beyond Hope Project podcast, Jason Tharp delves into the profound impact of embracing vulnerability and the transformative journey of asking for help. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Jason explores the common struggles and fears associated with seeking assistance, drawing from his own experiences of navigating challenges in business and personal growth.

Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on the importance of self-awareness, perseverance, and empowerment in overcoming obstacles. Jason highlights the significance of being open to receiving help and how it can lead to profound shifts in mindset and outlook. By sharing his journey, Jason aims to inspire others to recognize the power of vulnerability and the opportunities for growth that arise when one dares to ask for support.

Join the conversation as Jason encourages listeners to focus on their goals, embrace vulnerability, and cultivate a mindset of bravery and resilience. Whether you’re seeking guidance in personal development, entrepreneurship, or overcoming life’s hurdles, this episode offers practical insights and encouragement to help you navigate your own journey towards self-discovery and fulfillment.

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hey guys welcome back to the Beyond hope

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project podcast my name is Jason Tharp

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the champion of Hope and today we have

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an exciting episode for you because

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here's the catch asking for Hope isn't

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as scary as you think it is and maybe

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that's just a self-affirmation for

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myself because um that is one of my

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biggest I don't want to call it a fear

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because it's not really a fear it's the

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thing I get hung up on a lot is asking

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for help and I think it's because like

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I've done a lot of stuff in the past

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where uh business-wise I've been I feel

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like I've been taken advantage of or

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exploited because I just didn't know any

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better I didn't understand contracts or

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I just didn't understand you know what

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it's like to be a working creative and I

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kind of learned the hard way and

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it was always usually case around as

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help because it was like this you know I

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listened to a podcast day and somebody

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was saying like they struggle with this

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idea of when you ask for help that there

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was a catch involved in it um and it was

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like their apprehension was like they

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needed to feel safe before they knew

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that the help was trustworthy and their

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struggle was that they wanted to be a

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nice person and um and help others and I

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think that's a little bit of my hang-up

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where I fall into that trap with asking

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for help and then um something kind of

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crazy happened where I was on this trip

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and I went to this this event where I

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was once again finding myself sitting in

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this it was called a conference but it

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wasn't a conference it was one of those

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deals where they give you like you know

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a nickels worth of like value but then

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promised 95 cents worth the stuff if you

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just sign up for their newsletter or if

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you just text this we send you the

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complete guide for free and I mean you

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you see them just as much as I do um and

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having fallen for a bunch of those

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things I'm very um my my guard is up on

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those and I tend to run now instead of

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even remotely entertain those things

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because what I realized every time I

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signed up for one of those things I kind

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of already knew the stuff they were

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talking about it was just like sold one

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way but then it flipped um and I'm sure

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that a lot of you can relate to that

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just as well as I do so what happened

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was I was in this thing and and I had

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driven there um from another meeting

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that I had so I was quite a few miles

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from home and my intentions were to stay

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it was I was in New York was to stay in

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New York the other the the next night or

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that

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night and what ended up happening was I

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had this moment where all of a sudden

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I'm listening to this person on stage

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that is speaking complete nonsense stuff

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that has been just regurgitated from

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somebody else's stuff and just stuff

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you've heard a million times and then

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the classic line of like well all you

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got to do is just send this here and

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I'll text you all of this stuff and you

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know whatever and I'm not saying this is

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a attack like this person doesn't know

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what they're talking about that's not at

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all where I'm going with this this is

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really just me reflecting on something

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that I hope that you can reflect on and

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see a little bit of your story because

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I'm sure this person did a great job

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they they probably do a great job for

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some of those that are looking for those

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sort of

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solutions but as I'm developing myself

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in my own self-development

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Parts this is a trigger for me because

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what I'm seeking is help but what I'm

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not doing is asking for help and there's

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a distinct difference because when

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you're busy seeking you're looking for

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answers outside of yourself and what

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eventually starts happening is you start

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adopting somebody else's idea of what

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your life should be and I'm at that

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point where I'm tired of that because

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I've done it enough where it has been

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Hollow and has not helped so where I'm

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at is that threshold of like what do I

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got to do I got start asking for help so

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as I'm sitting here listening to this

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person I get on my phone and I just text

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some people that I know might actually

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have the answers and the the trigger was

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like why am I sitting here listening to

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the same stuff I've heard a hundred

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times versus like seeing if some people

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in my inner circle that are maybe fur

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further ahead or where I want to be what

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they're doing and see if I can maybe get

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some help from them so I sent a couple

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texts and and sure enough shocker

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because I just asked for help they made

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themselves available and they were like

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well we can meet this day and I was like

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that's wonderful and you know I then

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left went and got my bag out of the

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hotel went to the train station got in

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my car and drove home and it was just

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that weird empowering thing because for

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whatever reason when you are somebody

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that deals with struggling with Worth or

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or doubt in yourself or you know a big

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one for me is like it's it's so

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confusing me because I feel like what

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I'm doing is just being me and that you

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realize that there are people that just

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truly want to help and that notion is um

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it's tough for anybody that has felt

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taken advantage of multiple times

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because we are kind of conditioned to um

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to not accept the help and it's

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definitely difficult for somebody that

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is like heart felt heart leader a Giver

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by nature which I feel like I fallen

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into that category to not only just keep

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giving but also be willing to receive

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stuff and I think that's the other part

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when you're asking help is you have to

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be willing to receive the help that

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you're getting and I would say with

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confidence that like that I wasn't the

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best at receiving that stuff and and

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what I would do is make up an excuse or

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I would put it off or i' procrastinate

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on that idea or I would just do whatever

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it took to I guess not receive what was

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waiting to come through and you know for

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whatever reason I just I I just had that

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Epiphany this week and I just felt like

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I needed to come on here and talk about

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that because it was such a profound

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shift and super empowering and what it

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did was it like kind of took the damn of

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roadblocks out of my head and all of a

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sudden like these answers started

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flowing of what it was and I know I've

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said this on here a million times and

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I'm probably going to continue to say it

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because I think that if I need to hear

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it a bunch you probably hear need to

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hear a bunch it wasn't in all the places

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I was looking for something it was all

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in everything that I have already been

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doing I just wasn't looking in the right

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spot or I wasn't asking the right

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question or I wasn't seen that it was

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already there and a lot of the reasons

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why it was because it was based behind

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fear or was behind anger it was behind

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shame or doubt or some sort of negative

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thing and I think what you we we tend to

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think sometimes is that if you get a

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great handle on these things that those

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things disappear and when they flare

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back up you kind of struggle with it

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because it shouldn't be flaring back up

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and I definitely would say for me that's

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a a big one is like you know wondering

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that like you know you think you have

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Mastery over this doubt but then

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sometimes it flares back up and you

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start to to question and maybe it is

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because you're putting a lot of effort

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into something you're not seeing some

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stuff but I will also challenge you to

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think about this wherever you're at

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right now you didn't get there overnight

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either and if you're really wanting to

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shift and have a big impact which is a

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big goal for me is to take the story

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that I have lived through and figure out

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a way to help people see what is good

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about them to provide the hope the spark

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to get started and as you get started to

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help you figure out the along the path

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of what you're learning

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and the only way I can do that is by

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getting on here and telling you the

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stuff that I'm on the same path we might

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have different paths we are all in this

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journey together and our paths are

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completely different but if I'm willing

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to share and give what it is that I am

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learning along the way then I have to be

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willing to receive the goodness that's

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coming back to me and that's what I

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learned this week was the simple as part

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of just asking for help now what was

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involved in that it was about being

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brave being bold enough you know go back

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to the Hope acronym you know I was hyper

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aware right I was in that situation I

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realized this is not what I want anymore

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what can I do to shift that then I was

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openhearted I was willing to get up and

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leave I was willing to love myself

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enough to not put more stuff that I did

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not need into my head to cause more

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confusion make me lose track of what I'm

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doing and why I'm doing it and I was

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openhearted enough to walk away and then

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I

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persisted I sat down and thought about

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what is it that is making this happen

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and I've learned how to you know you're

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you're learning along the way to forgive

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yourself for doing the same repeat thing

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I'm not beating myself up anymore like

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those days are long gone that that ended

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a long time ago and and there that

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Clarity was has been serving me really

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well because it allows me to understand

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that each day is a reset so when you can

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learn to forgive yourself for putting

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yourself back in the same spot that

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you've been before you can persist a lot

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more you can get right back to where you

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were when you thought you were failing

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to realize that no no no I'm actually

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learning and like look at this this is

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really pretty empowering and that brings

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me to the last part right you feel

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empowered when you're hyper aware and

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you're openart and you persist to this

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stuff you're going to feel pretty

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empowered when you start to feel

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empowered you're going to take those

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steps and you're going to realize that

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like wow it wasn't so bad to ask for

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help and wow it was actually kind of

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cool to be open to receiving that help

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and as you start down that path and you

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start to see those things realize that

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like it really is already here you're

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not Reinventing all the time some people

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call it uprooting some people call it

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Reinventing for me it was

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self-destruction that was a big one you

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know anything went good I had to blow it

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up because I didn't deserve it right and

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when you when you start to get clear

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with that and you focus so now my

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mission is simple like I am picking one

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thing thing I'm focusing on one thing

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and I'm going to move on that one thing

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and the thing is there's here's the fun

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part about it is like all those other

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things I was pushing on they were

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equally as good they're equally as good

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so what does that mean that means that

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once this one gets going then I can

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introduce the other stuff and the net is

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already there so it's not going to be

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such a push to get through instead of

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trying to push 10 rocks up the hill I

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can push one and when I get it up there

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I can bring the other ones because I

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know the path is there I understand that

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there's people along the way to help I

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understand that I don't have to do it in

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one day I understand that like just

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because I'm not moving it today just a

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little bit that I'm failing all of these

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things because you've done that one

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thing and pushed it up you realize that

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along the way you've learned a ton and

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this is how it best serves you so guys

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as you're out there trying to do stuff

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maybe are you like me are you trying to

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do too much right now wondering why

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you're not getting where you want to go

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are you spinning plates after plates

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after plates just putting out fires that

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at the end of the day the one person

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that didn't get anything accomplished

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was you because you're too busy worrying

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about everything else um maybe that's

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time to stop that stuff maybe it's time

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to think about it in a different way

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what would it be like if you could think

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about it for a second if you could focus

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all your energy and effort on this one

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thing how important is it to you if it's

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wanting to make an impact and like think

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about that who's going to impact my goal

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is the same as every time time I I sat

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down and talked with you is that this

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will affect two people that know two

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people that will share this message with

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them that will then start to spider we

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where we're able to help other people

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discover what is amazing in themselves

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and this is what the mission is and this

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is what your mission should be be brave

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enough to understand that you're doing a

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good job maybe you're just spreading

12:26

yourself too thin stop beating yourself

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up over the things you're not getting

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accomplished and start looking at the

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things you're doing and is that the

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reason why you're not getting it

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accomplished focus on your what and then

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the why will take over because the

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passion and all stuff comes through

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you're passionate about what you want to

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do I think what's happening is that

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you're allowing too much stuff to get in

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the way that we lose that passion and we

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think that maybe it's not meant for us I

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don't think that's the case I think you

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know as well as I do what is meant for

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me I think you you know exactly what

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it's meant for you so you know I I

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really hope that that resonates with you

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out there I hope that you can hear that

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and

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understand that

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value of being bold enough I mean it

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really does come down to being bold like

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it it your life can change I think

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everybody gets confused by this idea

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self-help needs to be some sort of like

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you know

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10year Journey you know or

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self-discovery or whatever you want to

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call it this 10 year Journey but it can

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happen an instant and it does happen by

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just deciding that you are going to

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focus on you and what you want to do and

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then be open to receive the magic that

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comes out of that um because it's all

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sitting there waiting for you um and

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it's hard to see a lot of stuff when

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you're looking through a bunch of trees

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of things the path gets a lot clearer

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when you start to realize that like that

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one tree there doesn't need to be there

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and I can move over here and I can

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zigzag and I can get away from all this

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stuff and all a sudden it just opens up

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to this path that you've been looking

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for all along so guys I hope that that

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resonates I mean listen I got a

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newsletter that I am trying to grow

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that's one of my that that is one of my

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focuses right there that's part of it

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you know I have books that I trying to

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wrap up so it it is all this is the

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focus of so I want to grow this

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newsletter so I have an I have an ask if

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you know two people that can benefit

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from this forward this podcast to them

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are you somebody that focuses on too

14:29

many things drop a comment on there go

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over my website jason.com sign up for my

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newsletter like help me grow this hope

14:37

thing um I don't want to be a guru I

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want to help you through by seeing

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yourself through my story and help you

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overcome yourself while I overcome

14:45

myself and uh yeah so hey have a good

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day you're doing a good job being human

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keep doing it life is difficult and uh

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nobody said it was going to be easy but

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stop focusing on all this other crap and

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focus on the one thing and I think what

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you're going to find is your life's

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going to open up to pretty amazing

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things hope this helps all

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